Wisdom in our tears
Truth be told, when I first embarked on my coaching journey, my informal KPI was eliciting emotional responses from my clients. I believed that if I could provoke tears, it signified that I had asked a penetrating question, allowing my coachees to embrace vulnerability. Reflecting on that period two years later today, I recognise the self-serving nature of this desire. Nonetheless, I hold a deep appreciation for the profound moments of introspection I experienced with my coachees, which provided significant support during my early, uncertain days as a novice coach.
Tears intrigue me because:
- They are a spontaneous and natural response. Almost like a sneeze, you cannot wish it away or ignore it when it comes to you. It is a powerful indicator of our emotional landscape. In a coaching session, tears can signify a breakthrough moment, or the surfacing of deeply held beliefs and experiences that one has left unexplored.
- There is a lot of wisdom in our tears. A powerful indicator of our emotional landscape. What made me tear up? What allowed me to feel better after I cried? What do these feelings reveal about my current situation or past experiences?
- They provide a compassionate space for self-discovery and healing. By allowing ourselves to embrace tears and the emotions they embody, we can gently navigate our journey to personal growth with increased ease and resilience.
To each and every one of my coachees who allowed me into your self projects, I am deeply grateful for the opportunity to walk alongside you. Believe it or not, I consistently leave our sessions with just as much, if not more, food for thought than you do. Those tears you shed? They were not a testament to my skills but to your courageous willingness to dive deep into your inner thoughts and your fervent desire to grow. It is your journey and commitment that truly makes the magic happen.
泪水背后的智慧
很惭愧的，当我刚开始做教练时，我的非正式KPI竟是让人哭！我当时心想，我一定是问对了什么，才能让对方卸下防备，变得脆弱。这是两年前的事了。现在回想起来，我对自己当时的要求感到羞愧不堪。但话说回来，我真的很珍惜与学员们共同经历的内省时刻。
我想，我们之所以会流泪是因为：
- 内心深处受到触动。眼泪是自发而自然的反应。就像打喷嚏一样，你无法让它消失或忽略它的到来。它是我们情感状态的有力指标。在教练会谈中，眼泪可能标志着一个突破性的时刻，或者是深藏已久的信念和未曾探究过的经历的浮现。
- 自我探索和疗愈的机会。是什么让我流泪？这些感受揭示了我当前的处境或过去的经历的什么真相？通过对泪水背后的情感的好奇，我们往往会对自己有更深一层的了解。
在此，我要感谢每一位允许我进入你们的成长计划的学员。你们的反馈给了我不少鼓励。每次的交谈都让我获得许多思考养分。你们之所以会在交谈中落泪，并不是我的功劳，而是你们愿意探索内心世界和渴望成长的勇气。